I was going to do this post for last week, I really was. It just… never happened? I’ll share these new Instagram favorites I have instead.
“Oh no, did I step on your fragile male ego? I really didn’t mean to but… Actually yes, yes I did. Completely intentional. Ass.”
“Not all men are rapists.
Some tell rape jokes.
Some protect rapists.
Some shame rape victims.
Some remain quiet.”
Also “Mansbebisar” (“man babies”), but that’s very text-based and all in Swedish.
Just a small note. I may have read this this morning, and (somewhat triumphantly?) told the boyfriend “Soon we don’t need men!”
The Endless Blog Challenge.
Woman crush Wednesday. Or is it too soon?
It is never too soon!
I’m (as usual) late to the party, but my woman crush of this week is Sarah Silverman. Her older stand-up never appealed to me (could be that I just didn’t get it), but now? Totally. I watched her special on Netflix, and really enjoyed it. Then she was the cover babe of the month for the latest Bust, and that just reinforced this for me.
I follow the instagram account called Bookish Harpy, and she’s doing a year of the women for her reading. One of the books that caught my eye was this one (because: pretty) :
And now I’m reading it, and HELL YES. This is awesome! I rarely write about books while I’m still reading them (there’s still a chance they’ll disappoint in the last third!!), but for this one I have no doubts. Buy/lend it – read it. It’s got teenage witches in it, and you know you love those.
The Endless Blog Challenge.
Feminist Friday. I’ve got something specific in mind: a book with a feminist theme that you really like, fiction or non-fiction.
This is a repeat – I’ve mentioned this book in the TTT posts as well, but it holds up. It’s called Egalia’s Daughters, and was written by Norwegian author Gerd Brantenberg in the 70:ies. Somehow it seems the English translation has gotten an addition to the title, and is called Egalia’s Daughters: A Satire of the Sexes.
Women are paid a pregnancy salary for being pregnant and giving birth, after which the man takes responsibility for raising the children (the woman already did the main task of actually creating life). There are no housewives, there are househusbands. No bras, but pras (well, not sure how that’s been translated into English. they have “bras for penises” that boys are encouraged to wear once they reach puberty, to protect their fragile man-parts).
It’s been a few years since I read this, so I honestly don’t remember that much details. I’ll do a re-read soon and revisit this though. What I do remember, is that it really made me realize how Swedish is male-oriented – the general “one” (as in “one could say”) is in Swedish “man”. But not in this book, here it’s “dam”.
So, as you may know, my reading challenge for this year included a gender aspect – reading at least 75% women. People (even my outspoken feminist colleague) react to this. The most common comment so far being “I don’t even think about that”. At which I want to say well, maybe that’s part of the problem? (but I don’t).
As you also might know, I’m currently reading Bad Feminist. This morning, I came across this section, about “women’s fiction” as a genre:
The first few chapters were a bit shallow and general to me, but I see now, that she was just luring people in, building up for the real stuff. Loving the book now!
What can I say, Lisa’s Endless Blog Challenge made this week happen when it comes to blog posts (I have the weirdest cold, feels like I can’t think).
This week’s favorites. Listing favorites; it doesn’t get old for me.
Look, I know we’re not “supposed” to like Ke$ha, and I’ve only heard this song once (listening to Release Radar on the way to work this morning), so I’m not sure how it’ll hold up. First listen – I like this remix (more than the original).
And yes, apparently I like everything Linnéa Olsson does.
And I’m reading this book (well, I’m reading like 4 books simultaneously), and it’s upsetting. It’s kind of related to my work, and how can you not question the ethics of the pharma/medical industry after reading this?
“Her name was Henrietta Lacks, but scientists know her as HeLa. She was a poor Southern tobacco farmer who worked the same land as her slave ancestors, yet her cells—taken without her knowledge—became one of the most important tools in medicine.”
Then this. If you, like my brothers and I, watched the Police Academy excessively as a kid (look, we saw the same VHS tapes over and over and over… again), the one of Bobcat Goldthwait should crack you up. And yes, still looking at too many videos of Seth MacFarlane.
SEPTEMBER SUMMARY. Or September favorites, whatever you want to call it! Some sort of wrap up of September.
This was a very good reading month. Partially because of Storytel and the audiobooks I actually enjoyed. And all the feminism, I’m loving it.
Kerstin Ekman’s Händelser vid vatten (Blackwater)
Carin Holmberg’s Det kallas manshat
Dave Eggers The Circle
Chika Unigwe’s On Black Sisters’ Street
Nina Björk’s Under det rosa täcket (Under the pink duvet)
Annika Lantz’s Vad ska en flicka göra (What’s a girl to do)
Amanda Lovelace’s The Princess Saves Herself in this One
Katarina Wennstam Flickan och skulden (The Girl and the Guilt)
Felicia Day You’re Never Weird on the Internet (Almost)
Simon Pegg Nerd Do Well
Lois Lowry The Giver
I wanted to love Ekman’s book, like really, since she seems to be an awesome person. But I’m like “meh”. The first half was somewhat of a struggle, and at no point did I warm up to any of the characters in it. Equally lacking interesting characters was The Circle. Like, I enjoyed reading it, but I will never recommend it to anyone because of shallow (female) main person. Wennstam’s book is the worst thing (qua contents, not writing) I have ever read. Still makes me sick just thinking of it, and how can you even believe in the judicial system of your country after reading it? So after that I had to read something lighter, and went for two autobiographies. Day’s was by far the more enjoyable, and she had me giggling a bunch of times. Pegg’s was somewhat of a disappointment, mainly focusing on him as a kid and with a weird side-story.
The Hitman’s Bodyguard
Despicable Me 3
Cirkeln (note: not related in any way to the first movie in this list)
Star Wars – Rogue One
Agent of Shield (finished season 4)
Fargo (season 3)
13 Reasons Why
Star Trek: Discovery
A wedding! Two 50+ people tied the knot.
A live show of a podcast! (Welcome to Nightvale on European tour)
Postpatriarkatet (tack Lisa för tips!)
I just finished this book, and I have to rant about it. I’ve never been so upset, so disgusted, from reading a book (and I’ve read some bad shit before). The title would be something like “The Girl and the Guilt: a book about how society views rape” in English. The author has gone through old verdicts in rape cases, and shows how the courts tend to focus on the victim. Asking if the woman was drinking, doing drugs, her sexual history, how she was dressed – and so on. While the men – the actual perpetrators – were almost never asked similar questions. And there are interviews. Gut-wrenching interviews. With victims, lawyers, police, DAs… It feel sick just thinking of it. This should be mandatory reading for EVERYONE.
Seriously, after reading this and listening to Postpatriarkatet, I think my future will lie in a women-only commune. I shall have a bunch of cats and say like the main character of “Decoy Bride” – “I’m going man-vegan”. (I already think I can get Lisa and friend L to join. A house in the forest – you know you want it!)
Lisa’s Endless Blog Challenge continues, and I hope this will be a recurring theme:
WOMAN CRUSH WEDNESDAY. The idea is to write about a woman you love for some reason. (..but it can’t be just because she’s attractive. Because I say so. Because it’s boring.)
I choose the author of a book I still remember fondly, more than a year after reading it:
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. All the quotes. *sigh*
“Some people ask: “Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?” Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general—but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists