SEPTEMBER SUMMARY. Or September favorites, whatever you want to call it! Some sort of wrap up of September.
This was a very good reading month. Partially because of Storytel and the audiobooks I actually enjoyed. And all the feminism, I’m loving it.
Kerstin Ekman’s Händelser vid vatten (Blackwater)
Carin Holmberg’s Det kallas manshat
Dave Eggers The Circle
Chika Unigwe’s On Black Sisters’ Street
Nina Björk’s Under det rosa täcket (Under the pink duvet)
Annika Lantz’s Vad ska en flicka göra (What’s a girl to do)
Amanda Lovelace’s The Princess Saves Herself in this One
Katarina Wennstam Flickan och skulden (The Girl and the Guilt)
Felicia Day You’re Never Weird on the Internet (Almost)
Simon Pegg Nerd Do Well
Lois Lowry The Giver
I wanted to love Ekman’s book, like really, since she seems to be an awesome person. But I’m like “meh”. The first half was somewhat of a struggle, and at no point did I warm up to any of the characters in it. Equally lacking interesting characters was The Circle. Like, I enjoyed reading it, but I will never recommend it to anyone because of shallow (female) main person. Wennstam’s book is the worst thing (qua contents, not writing) I have ever read. Still makes me sick just thinking of it, and how can you even believe in the judicial system of your country after reading it? So after that I had to read something lighter, and went for two autobiographies. Day’s was by far the more enjoyable, and she had me giggling a bunch of times. Pegg’s was somewhat of a disappointment, mainly focusing on him as a kid and with a weird side-story.
The Hitman’s Bodyguard
Despicable Me 3
Cirkeln (note: not related in any way to the first movie in this list)
Star Wars – Rogue One
Agent of Shield (finished season 4)
Fargo (season 3)
13 Reasons Why
Star Trek: Discovery
A wedding! Two 50+ people tied the knot.
A live show of a podcast! (Welcome to Nightvale on European tour)
Postpatriarkatet (tack Lisa för tips!)
I just finished this book, and I have to rant about it. I’ve never been so upset, so disgusted, from reading a book (and I’ve read some bad shit before). The title would be something like “The Girl and the Guilt: a book about how society views rape” in English. The author has gone through old verdicts in rape cases, and shows how the courts tend to focus on the victim. Asking if the woman was drinking, doing drugs, her sexual history, how she was dressed – and so on. While the men – the actual perpetrators – were almost never asked similar questions. And there are interviews. Gut-wrenching interviews. With victims, lawyers, police, DAs… It feel sick just thinking of it. This should be mandatory reading for EVERYONE.
Seriously, after reading this and listening to Postpatriarkatet, I think my future will lie in a women-only commune. I shall have a bunch of cats and say like the main character of “Decoy Bride” – “I’m going man-vegan”. (I already think I can get Lisa and friend L to join. A house in the forest – you know you want it!)
Lisa’s Endless Blog Challenge continues, and I hope this will be a recurring theme:
WOMAN CRUSH WEDNESDAY. The idea is to write about a woman you love for some reason. (..but it can’t be just because she’s attractive. Because I say so. Because it’s boring.)
I choose the author of a book I still remember fondly, more than a year after reading it:
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. All the quotes. *sigh*
“Some people ask: “Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?” Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general—but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists
A song “by one of your favorite bands (#3)”.
The reason I love Annika Norlin? Lyrics like these, they just crack me up:
And I know love will leave you all crooked
And I know he’ll start sleeping around
Or start listening to symphony rock
Or throw out the key and change the lock
Also, when googling for videos of this song, see how many covers there are? Almost all by women? Representation matters.
Last night, I suddenly realized this:
She’s back! And there’s nothing to do but applaud TS for taking a stance against a douche that groped her, using her position and taking the fight for less privileged women.
And in other news (small Feminist Friday shout out), since about 2 months, ob’s commercials both here and in Sweden (at least what I saw when there for vacation) have done the great switch from blue liquids to red:
About friggin time. (Also led to a long discussion with my partner where he goes “no one notices these things”, and I’m like yes, lots of people do, and he doesn’t believe me.)
Can we talk about how excited I am that we’ll finally get a female Doctor Who? I was promoting it last time, but then got kind of discouraged as they picked an old white man (I’d say “again”, but to be fair I guess it was the first old one). Yay!
And, I have to say that the manbabies’ reaction on the internet makes me lol for real. Bonus points!
(Side note: my partner informed me, in this manner: “Did you hear they chose a new Doctor Who?” me: no. who? BF: “a woman”. me: 😮 )
And since I was promoting them again to my newest colleague (as we say in Swedish – favorit i repris):
There’s a cover of Taylor Swift’s “Blank Space” done by Imagine Dragons on Spotify. It’s from a live session, and it starts off with someone in the band chatting a bit, telling the audience that they’re about to perform a song by Swift and, he adds, “I really love the melodies in this song, I think that they’re absolutely brilliant”. At this, the audience laughs and the guy insists that he is serious.
Icelandic wonder Ásgeir was asked to perform a cover of a hit-list song when he visited a Dutch radio show around 3 years ago. He claims to have randomly picked a song based on the title (presumably he, like I, “don’t listen to radio”?), and ended up with Miley Cyrus’ “Wrecking Ball” which he then performed with his band. When introducing them, the hosts of the shows were audibly giggling at the song choice, as does the artist and his band.
When Justin Bieber is made fun of, it’s rarely about his music, but either about his fangirls or weird behavior. When it’s Taylor Swift however, it’s almost always about who she’s dating, how many people she’s dated, and how it “never” seems to last.
It’s time to realize that this is not “guy talk”. These are not funny jokes that you’ll understand if you just have some sense of humor. This is how everyday sexism and diminishing of a whole gender looks like. I’ve seen some advice for dealing with this, which I plan to try out – instead of laughing or starting a discussion, pretend you don’t get it, and let them explain why their sexist shit is funny.