Listen to the words I say

I struggle with a colleague. In my team of 5, there are 4 introverts and 1 extrovert. This extrovert is seriously killing me. This person doesn’t listen to all the words I say, just some, and then they make an interpretation of what was said. I’m not sure if this is due to the outgoing nature of the person, but to me they’re linked.


(me): Well I see that it’s wrong, but I’m not sure if they have to change something in the background too, so it’s better if you ask them to fix it so that everything goes right.

(colleague, 10 minutes later): He said he fixed it, but it went really fast and you said it was more complex with more things that had to be done.

Just… no. Listen to the words I say. Don’t interpret. The words are LITERALLY what I mean. There is no between the lines.

My partner calls me “very literal” and “part vulcan” (we’re re-watching Star Trek, it came up). I choose to see these as a compliments.

Top Ten Tuesday

It’s Tuesday and time for another  The Broke and the Bookish TTT!

February 14: All About Romance Tropes/Types — top ten favorite hate-to-love romances (from books or movies or tv), top ten favorite (or least favorite) instalove romances, favorite slow-burn romances, favorite starcrossed lovers, etc. etc. Can go so many ways with this one).

Since I don’t celebrate Valentine’s in any way, I figured I could at least do a list! I’ve opted for “favorite love stories”, crossing all genres and media (but it ended up being mainly movies).

  • First and best: Mr. Darcy & Elizabeth Bennett. And even though the newest movie  version (2005) was OK, it wasn’t even close to beating the good old BBC TV adaptation from 1995.
  • Juno. Ellen Page and Michael Cera are just super cute awkward teenagers + Allison Janney & JK Simmons as Juno’s parents <3.
  • It has a love story but is mainly a story about female friendship. And they sing a cappella. Pitch Perfect.
  • (500) Days of Summer. Any movie where Joseph Gordon-Levitt dances is a good movie. Plus it has Zooey Deschanel in it!
  • It’s been mentioned here before, but there’s no helping that; Austenland. Keri Russell is impossible not to like and JJ Feild does the best Darcy character since Colin Firth. (Storyline? I don’t know what you’re talking about.)
  • Nia Vardalos is amazing, and her depiction of a Greek family kills in My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
  • Yeeeahh, how about Music & Lyrics? Surprisingly, Hugh Grant and Drew Barrymore make a totally believable couple. Plus it includes this gem:

  • Sophie Kinsella’s “Can You Keep a Secret“. I haven’t re-read it, but really liked it the one time I read it.
  • If I had a guilty pleasure romantic movie I guess it’d be The Holiday. I just can’t help it, and Kate Winslet and Jack Black are so adorable I don’t mind Jude Law/Cameron Diaz.
  • Ok, so this is not a traditional love story, and it contains Ryan Gosling. BUT HEAR ME OUT. This is a sad/cute/happy/depressing movie that I guess you’ll either love or hate. Lars and the Real Girl. If you don’t mind a bit of weirdness.

Feminist Friday

Last Friday, after having posted my first Feminist Friday post, I watched the Graham Norton Show. And it was their most feminist episode ever! (Eh, to my knowledge at least.)

Season 20, episode 10. It’s available illegally on youtube (link, which might disappear at any point) if you don’t have BBC. I realize it’s 40 minutes and you might not want to watch all that, then just jump ahead to 10:50 when they start talking about the redundancy of traditional masculinity. And Sandi Toksvig is in it and she’s just awesome.

And for anyone who’s lived in a cave and go “not all men”; watch this video, then read the comments.

And that video makes me think of this comic by Lina Neidestam:


(“Thanks but no thanks.”, “No.”, “But understand that I don’t want to talk, dance or sleep with you, respect a fucking no!”, “”I have a boyfriend.””, “My sincere apologies, miss!”)

The worst season…

…of Buffy! See what I did there? I like fall/autumn. It’s dark and cozy and it makes perfect sense to light candles and stay inside. (Although, as discussed with Lisa, I don’t have to go through the treacherous season that is Swedish fall with ice and snow. But I miss the snow…)

So anyway, let’s talk about the horror that starts with episode 16, Season 5 of Buffy. I mean technically I guess it starts the episode prior to that one, when Buffy comes home and finds her mom lifeless on the couch. This season makes me hate Joss Whedon just a little bit. Sure the actors are great and convincing, but man what a drag it is to watch. I don’t need to cry this much (yes, even though I know what’s going to happen). Dying moms, what’s sadder than that?


Top Ten Tuesday

It’s Tuesday and time for another  The Broke and the Bookish TTT!

October 18: Ten Characters I’d Name A Child/Dog/Cat/Car/Etc. After — we did this topic back in 2011 and thought it might be fun to revisit it…feel free to spin it how you need!

Back in the days when I lived at home (this is almost half a life ago… !!) we didn’t have that many TV channels to choose from. That’s what happens when you grow up on the countryside of Sweden (as in, when I was little we had 2 channels – both state-run). This is also the reason I liked Star Trek; it was one of the few things that wasn’t too stuffy. This is also how I and my younger brother learned to love The Man From U.N.C.L.E. And now we’re talking original, 60’s show.


And so with that super long introduction I give you my first two fictional character turned cat names:

  1. Napoleon Solo
  2. Ilya Kuryakin (alternatively two cats: 1) Ilya and 2) Kuryakin)
  3. Hiro (from here.)
  4. YT. See, this is my favorite character from Snow Crash, but I’m afraid I’ll never use it out of fear people will think I say “whitey” (as happens to YT in the book…)
  5. Tekla. From another Stephenson book that I just finished – Seveneves.

And… I think I’ll leave this week’s list a top 5, since this is all I could come up with. What are yours?

Buffy quotes #2

Angel went bad, then good again and the mayor ate the principal. (So in other words, I’m done with season 3 now.) I’m a bit surprised at how much I still like it. Not questioning the show at all really, just impressed that it’s aged so well. Probably will have to buy the whole DVD set I guess?

Xander: “She’s possessed.”

Giles: “Possessed by what?”

Willow: “Aaah, a possessing thing!”

Giles: “Well that narrows it down.”

Xander: “Maybe when the master killed her, some mystical bad-guy transference thing happened?”

Willow: “That’s what it was! Why else would she be acting like such a B-I-T-C-H?

Giles: “I think we’re all a little too old to be spelling things out.

Xander: “A Bitca?”

Giles: “…yes.”

Working on my poker face

A person at my work loves Bridget Jones’ Diary and was talking about it last week. I’m not a huge fan but chimed in by talking about Colin Firth as Darcy and how that was funny. The person was all “Whaaat? He played Darcy before?”. This is not even where the poker face came in.

I lent them my DVDs with the BBC adaptation of Pride and Prejudice. Today I got them back, with the comment “I didn’t make it past the first part, cause there was too much giggling”.

The correct smiley for me at the moment is: