Feminist Friday

I think it’s time for a list again, this time I’ll try to come up with 5 movies. Now, I haven’t specifically tried to find feminist movies, but movies that celebrate female friendships:

  • Pitch Perfect. It’s full of women! Who have names and talk to each other! And even though there’s a love interest in it, it’s not the main storyline. And Anna Kendrick and Rebel Wilson!
  • Clueless. We had this one on VHR and I’ve seen it SO MANY times. Still cute though.
  • Thelma and Louise. I know, I know. But how can you avoid it in a list like this?
  • Bridesmaids. For someone who has no intention of ever marrying, I sure do like my wedding-centered movies. And this one has Melissa McCarthy and Kristen Wiig in it, so obviously worth seing. (Also Chris O’Dowd as love interest, who’d have seen that coming after the IT Crowd?) (Oh… eh, and Rebel Wilson!)
  • How to be Single. This is far from a feminist movie, but it was entertaining enough (again, Rebel Wilson!) and the moral of the story… sisters before misters (such a lame slogan btw, I swear never to use it IRL).



Feminist Friday

Aah, I hadn’t prepared this at all, and today’s crazy busy at work (cause 1 person doesn’t work on Fridays, 1 person is sick and our boss thinks “THAT’S A GOOD TIME TO GO TO AMERICA FOR WORK!”). We’re two people in here today, versus normally 6. Wo-fucking-ho.

So instead I’ll leave you with this: today’s Feminist Friday is simply an advise to sign up to Ann Friedman’s weekly newsletter.

Feminist Friday

When I was contemplating what I should dedicate this week’s Feminist Friday to, I – for some reason – thought of comics. Now I don’t really read a lot of comics, and the ones I do enjoy have been mentioned here and here before. But then I realized that my favorite online “serial” comic (I don’t know what to call it) qualifies! I’m of course talking about xkcd – “a webcomic of romance, sarcasm, math, and language”. And if, against all odds, you don’t know of this one yet (and aren’t into it by the previous description), I shall convince you with examples:


Right?! Or like this:


And this:


Added bonus are the extra comments that show when you hover the mouse over the comic. They are, all by themselves, enough of a reason to visit xkcd:


Feminist Friday

It’s time for a list! Again it’s always helpful Lisa who suggested some things to list, and I will start with this:

Five Feminist Songs:

So the first two are “oldies” but goodies, and maybe not everyone know them? I saw Le Tigre in Umeå (it’s a town…) in 2005 and I still have the t-shirt (although pretty much in rags by now). I was blown away and instantly had a crush.

Obviously Annika Norlin will be part of the list again. If you, like I, have problems hearing what she sings in this song you can read the lyrics here. In Beyoncé’s song, just listen to the lines from “We Should All Be Feminists”. Swoon. And Taylor because apparently she has turned into something of an icon on this blog.

They also did this pretty awesome cover of I’m so excited:

Lunachicks also did a great cover – of Heart of Glass:

Feminist Friday

Lisa has requested that I dedicate an FF post to this question. Please note it was not written by her (her English is too good for that), but appeared in her social media feed:

What do you think of feminism? Do you think it has gone to extreme?

I mean, I can’t even read this question without sighing audibly.

As a start, the definition of feminism according to Merriam-Webster is:

  1. :  the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes

  2. :  organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

So, short answer: no. We obviously haven’t reached the goals yet.

Long answer: I don’t even know where to start on this one, but I’ll try to filter out what’s relevant for the “discussion”. Due to the lack of social and political equality, men and women are obviously not being judged by the same standards. As soon as some (radical) feminists say the slightest thing against men, it’s all “ooooh, man-haters! it’s gone too far!”. Meanwhile women’s rights to their own bodies is something that’s in the hands of white cis-men and a man accused of several cases of sexual assault (this and this and this list) has been elected president.

These examples are from America, but this is obviously not only an American problem. Here’s a Swedish example which involves one of the links above and this lady (the post has been edited since the video I originally embedded has been removed from YouTube):

In 2015 Zara Larsson was scheduled to play at a festival (Bråvalla). In their marketing for the event, they highlighted (less well-known) men. When Zara commented on this (stating the fact that of the acts, she was by far most played on Spotify) as well as questioning the festival’s (lack of) gender perspective… the men on internet went berserk.

Let’s just recap this. She states facts: the festival is male dominated & she is the most played on Spotify of the acts they’re paying to play. And men go crazy. The response from men* included hate, rape threats, rape wishes, death threats, death wishes et cetera.

Just… no.

As long as such a large group of men can behave like this, I think feminism cannot possibly be “to extreme”. Bring it on sisters.


*sure, not all men. however an overwhelming majority of the comments and threats were made by men.


Feminist Friday

I’m struggling with this label today. Not cause I don’t have things to say (come on!), but because I don’t want to go overly political here. But… a pussy grabber is going to be inaugurated as president of one of the most powerful countries on earth. I struggle.

A friend of mine has timed her vacation with this, and is in DC right now and is going to participate in the Women’s March there. This kind of makes me go all cheesy and want to call all women my sisters (since I don’t have any real ones). Go ladies!

Musically, I can only go with this:

Feminist Friday

Sometimes when I’m discussing with Dutchies I like to throw this line out there:

“The Dutch state doesn’t want women to work.”

Almost everyone initially react with disbelief to this. Of course they do! It’s a capitalist country/system, everyone should work, blabla. But mainly, “it’s not a gender issue“.

But here’s the thing: in the company I work for there are around 50 employees, of which around 70% have children. All the women with kids work part time; none of the men with kids work part time.

But, you say, surely there is daycare/kindergarten?

Sure! For the neat pleasure of having a professional look after your kid, you can do like my boss, who pays €600/month for 2 days childcare a week. Just make sure you pick up the kid before 18:00 or you’ll get a fine.

My example is obviously anecdotal, and low and medium income takers get part of this cost back from taxes. (But still.) According to the Economist “in the Netherlands 26.8% of men and 76.6% of women work less than 36 hours a week”. (36-40 hours count as full time employment here.) This is reflected in both governmental positions and board positions which are ridiculously disproportionate; “The Dutch government has said that 30% of executive board positions should be held by women, but that may prove excessively optimistic; the level in 2015 was just 6%” (same source).

You can also read this report. It has pretty graphs like these:


And findings like this:

The absence of facilities and support for childcare made part-time employment the dominant coping solution for mothers. (p. 4)

Just to be clear; this is not about who “should” raise the kid or not. That’s completely up to the individuals as far as I’m concerned. This is about the system that indoctrinates people to think it has to be the mother. (I read an article in Elsevier where they had research saying that 80% of Dutch people believe that mothers are better parents than fathers, but I can’t find it online!) This is not even about career prospects.

Whomever stays home to raise the kids, think about your pension*! If you work part time and your partner full time – make sure that they also contribute to your pension. Years of part time working will affect your pension, and chances are you won’t be with the same partner then.

*Look at me being all optimistic and pretending like there’ll be any pension funds left once all the baby boomers have gotten their share.